Is gender a big deal?

Boys and girls each have their own gender roles. Girls tend to be more compassionate and better listeners while boys tend to be more active and rowdy. If some children don't fall under these gender roles it doesn't mean they are weird or gay. It just means that they are different. What girl wouldn't want a guy who tends to be more compassionate or a good listener? And what guy wouldn't want a girl who can play sports or act like "one of the guys?" I believe gender roles are developed a lot by example. Girls and boys have predispositions but they also learn certain characteristics from their parents. Parents don't need to freak out if their boy picks up a doll or their girl picks up a toy car. Jumping to conclusions doesn't do anything. Just be a good parent and love your children.